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Manager’s Guide: What should I do if I believe someone was promoted or rewarded unjustly?


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What should I do if I believe someone was promoted or rewarded unjustly?
What should I do if I believe someone was promoted or rewarded unjustly?


Q: What should I do if I believe someone was promoted or rewarded unjustly?

A: There are four things you should do, i.e.,



1. You Must Show Respect.

Do:

  • Really cared about other people.

  • Show you care.

  • Give everyone (regardless of their position) the respect they deserve.

  • Show respect to everyone, including those who can't help you.

  • Do small acts of kindness.


Don't:

  • Not care about other people or show any respect for them.

  • Fake caring: acting like you care when you don't.

  • Respecting or caring about some people (those who can help you) but not others (those who can't).

  • Try to be efficient when talking with other people.


Say:

  • I admire and respect you.

  • I'm glad we get to work together.

  • Thanks for everything you do.

  • You're awesome at...

  • One thing I like about you is...

  • What do you think?

  • How do you feel?

  • Tell us what you think.

  • You have a different view of things. I need to hear you out.

  • I respect your position/authority/ strong opinion on this.



2. You Must Be Honest and Straight.

Do:

  • Be truthful. Tell the reality.

  • Be clear about your position.

  • Talk in plain words. Call things as they are.

  • Display integrity.


Don't:

  • Lie. Deceive.

  • Alter the truth. Withholding details. Influence people.

  • Use business jargon, avoidance tactics, double-talk, and flattery.

  • Twisting the truth (manipulating, positioning, and posing).

  • Create false impressions (by stating the facts, but in a misleading way).

Say:

  • This is how I see things...

  • This is something I really care about...

  • Here's what I think we should do...

  • As far as I can tell, these are the facts...

  • From my point of view...

  • I value our relationship and want to be honest with you...

  • I want to be candid with you...

  • Let me tell you what I've observed...

  • Here's what I've learned/understood...



3. You Must Make Expectations Clear.

Do:

  • Reveal and disclose expectations.

  • Examine and confirm expectations.

  • If feasible and necessary, renegotiate expectations.


Don't:

  • Go against expectations. Break what people expect.

  • Assume that everyone has the same or clear expectations.

  • Guessing. Pretending you know for sure what a person expects.

  • Leave expectations open-ended or ambiguous.

  • Not establishing the needed details (i.e., what the expected results, deadlines, and required resources) that make the expectation real.

  • Failing to write down the expectations. Relying on situational expectations, which can change based on memory, interpretation, understanding, or recent incident.

  • Do something unrelated to the expectation, then adjust the expectation based on the outcome of the unrelated action.


Say:

  • Exactly what do you want me to give you? How soon?

  • How do you know if you've been successful? How will we know if we've done our job?

  • What do we care about the most: speed, quality, or cost?

  • What resources do you need to make this happen?

  • What will we do next, and when?

  • How and when will we follow up?

  • What do you think you've understood from this talk?

  • Does anyone else need to know this?

  • What do you think you should do next?

  • What do you think I should do next?

  • Things are different now. We should look over what we expect...


4. You Must Protect Others.

Do:

  • Give other people credit.

  • Talk about people as if they were in the room with you.

  • Speak up for people who can't speak for themselves.

  • If you have to talk about others, make sure your intent is clear and justified.

  • Kill gossip immediately.


Don't:

  • Let people down / betray people.

  • Having two faces: it looks like you're giving credit to other people when they're there, but when they're not, you downplay their role and take the credit yourself.

  • Talking nicely to people in front of them but saying bad things about them behind their backs.

  • Gossiping. Share private information about other people.


Say:

  • I'd like to thank [[name]] for this achievement.

  • You did a great job. I'll make sure that [[name]] knows about it.

  • Thank you so much for your great help.

  • When this person is here, we should talk about this.

  • I'd rather talk to her face-to-face than talk about her.

  • How should we talk to this person about what's going on?

  • What is in this person's best interest?

  • It sounds like you need to talk straight to [[name]].


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