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Manager’s Guide: What should I do if a client is unreasonable?


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What should I do if a client is unreasonable?
What should I do if a client is unreasonable?


Q: What should I do if a client is unreasonable?

A: There are three things you should do, i.e.,



1. You Must Listen Hard.

Do:

  • Pay attention.

  • Listen before you talk.

  • Know and figure out what's wrong.

  • Use your ears, eyes, and heart to listen.

  • Find out what the people you work with think are the most important things you can do.


Don't:

  • Talk first, then listen.

  • Not listen at all.

  • Think you know what's most important to other people.

  • Think you know everything or have all the answers.

  • Listening but not getting it.

  • Listening only to figure out what to say next.

  • Only caring about your own plans.

  • Pretending to listen.


Say:

  • What I think I hear you say is...

  • Let me make sure I understand what you're trying to say...

  • Let's figure out what the group is trying to say...

  • Is there anything else you would like to say?

  • You feel [[unhappy, energized, annoyed, discouraged, baffled, spiteful, angry, confused, surprised, unsure, excited, etc.]] about the [[content, topic, or meaning of what is being said]].

  • First, I want to understand your point of view, and then I'll explain mine.



2. You Must Make Expectations Clear.

Do:

  • Reveal and disclose expectations.

  • Examine and confirm expectations.

  • If feasible and necessary, renegotiate expectations.


Don't:

  • Go against expectations. Break what people expect.

  • Assume that everyone has the same or clear expectations.

  • Guessing. Pretending you know for sure what a person expects.

  • Leave expectations open-ended or ambiguous.

  • Not establishing the needed details (i.e., what the expected results, deadlines, and required resources) that make the expectation real.

  • Failing to write down the expectations. Relying on situational expectations, which can change based on memory, interpretation, understanding, or recent incident.

  • Do something unrelated to the expectation, then adjust the expectation based on the outcome of the unrelated action.


Say:

  • Exactly what do you want me to give you? How soon?

  • How do you know if you've been successful? How will we know if we've done our job?

  • What do we care about the most: speed, quality, or cost?

  • What resources do you need to make this happen?

  • What will we do next, and when?

  • How and when will we follow up?

  • What do you think you've understood from this talk?

  • Does anyone else need to know this?

  • What do you think you should do next?

  • What do you think I should do next?

  • Things are different now. We should look over what we expect...



3. You Must Fulfil Your Commitments.

Do:

  • State your intentions clearly and follow through on them.

  • Be cautious when making promises (especially implicit ones) and uphold them at all costs.

  • Make honoring promises a mark of your character.


Don't:

  • Breach pledges or commitments.

  • Break their trust and lose their confidence.

  • Try to use public relations to get out of a promise you've breached.

  • Making too many promises and not keeping them.

  • Being lax about commitments.

  • Making so unclear and imprecise pledges that you cannot be held accountable.

  • Not making any commitments because you are afraid of breaking them.


Say:

  • Will I be glad I kept this promise instead of that one in ten years?

  • Do I really want to make this promise?

  • Am I going to do this?

  • I'll...

  • I'll do...

  • I promise to...

  • I commit to…

  • You can count on me to...

  • This is why I'm making this promise...

  • I promise to deliver by...

  • I'm ready to make this new commitment, but we've already agreed on other commitments. Which one should I put off or stop so I can deal with this?


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